Tag: Divine Timing

Stop Trying to Control Everything

It’s funny how when we stop trying to control everything, things fall into place even better.

Once again the Divine stepped in and interceded with a much better plan than what was about to go down.  Here’s what happened…

I was in a texting conversation where a very important/touchy/heated topic was being discussed.  I felt very centered and connected to Source during this conversation.  No shenanigans or egoic rantings, just presence.  When BAM! my person attacked me hard.

Whoa… What the heck was that? I couldn’t believe what this person was saying to me. I took a second to let it sink in, then I prepared to fire back.

I started to push my screen to respond and nothing.  My phone was frozen. I tried again. Nothing.  I backed out of text and tried to use another app.  Nothing.  I tried turning off my phone to reset it.  Still nothing.

At first I was annoyed, then I started to panic!  Omg, what if I can’t respond?  What if this person thinks I’m ignoring them?  What if they think I’m being mean, rude or some other negative thing?

The ol’ worried people pleasing Kristen began to emerge.  Then all at a once I just stopped, sat back and my new pattern of surrender (not trying to control) took over.  (That in itself was fascinating to observe.) I decided to let this be exactly what it was – it is simply an inability to respond “right now.” I can always respond later.

I thought to myself:  Welp, apparently I am not supposed to respond now.  For some reason there needs to be space between our responses.  I’m going to trust this is Right because this is what is happening right now. Spirit knows better than I, and I’m going to trust that. 

Awhile later I received another text from my person. (my phone still frozen) This text was filled with clarity, humility and compassion.  It changed the entire direction and energy of the original conversation.

I realized my person had been reacting with fear rather than responding from center.  Their fear/self-protection was leading them to defend and attack rather than be clear and open.  The response I could not send, would have ignited more fear in them causing further separation between us.  It became quite apparent this space was created for us so to inspire a different possible outcome.  When my phone froze and I was unable to respond, my person had time to sort through their emotions thus responding from a higher place.

God/Source/Universe was guiding us and we didn’t even know it.

Because that pause was created, we had a completely different outcome than where we were headed. However, if I had tried to “control” by firing back at them, I will bet that conversation would have gotten uglier and lasted much longer than needed.

I don’t know why this stuff still fascinates me, but it does!  I’m forever in awe of the infinite intelligence of the universe.  Times like these cause me to reflect on how much chaos can be avoided when we’re willing to stop trying to control, control, control and let God in.

Let this fun little story be a reminder to us all that we are not alone in this life. God has our backs.

When we sloooooow down, practice quiet mind, and listening to our guidance, life begins to flow for us.  When we learn to flow with life rather than control everything, we stop interfering with Divine guidance and THAT is when the miracles happen!


From Doormat to Sweet Empowerment Introduction

from doormat to sweet empowerment book cover

Dear Empowerment Seeker,
After a major life upset brought me to my knees, I set course to heal the unhealthy relationship patterns repeating in my life. I didn’t know how this was going to happen, but I was willing to do whatever it took. It took me two years (by myself) of dedicated work to heal what I now recognize as shame and unworthiness recovery. The results of my work were so astounding, so life-altering, I realized I had cracked the empowerment code.

There is a shame and unworthiness epidemic that plagues humanity. Our healing points show up in our people-pleasing (doormat), approval seeking, controlling, self-protection, mask wearing and desperate behaviors. We all (males and females) have wounds that require healing to attract and maintain the life and relationships we’ve always craved. My goal for writing this book is to help you shorten the learning curve so you can experience your dream life as soon as possible. I’ve done it and I can help you get there.

I have taught this concept to hundreds of people and those truly dedicated to the work, achieved their goal! Healing doesn’t just happen by wishing it so. We must be willing to take radical responsibility for our lives, intake and study new concepts then retrain our conditioned mind by applying what we’ve learned. Healing work is not “difficult”, it’s simply a new method of operating. I sectioned this book into 9 Modules. A module is defined as any number of distinct but interrelated units from which a program may be built. Each module in this book is a component of Shame and Unworthiness Recovery. All equally important.

All stories are true life situations of my own, coaching/consulting clients, friends and family. All names have been changed to protect and respect the privacy of others.
Although I now passionately teach shame and unworthiness recovery, I am a work in progress. I continue to take responsibility for my life, expand my knowledge and practice new concepts and tools. Empowerment is not a destination; it is a way of living.

I invite you, the purchaser of this book, to read the text slowly, high-light concepts you’d like to revisit, complete the exercises, journal your thoughts and apply what you’ve learned. Keep moving forward no matter what!

Always remember, life is a process. Healing is a process. Change is a process. Be gentle with yourself while on your journey. Stay your course, encourage and congratulate yourself often and most importantly, honor yourself for the unique and sacred individual that you are! You are deserving and capable of living a beautiful life!
I am extremely honored to assist you on your healing path.

I believe in you!