It can be a very difficult thing to admit where we have been a doormat in our lives. I hear the excuses repeatedly in others’ words as I, too, historically had heard the excuses repeatedly in my own. The thing we have to realize, is the mechanics of “why” we have such a hard time admitting the truth of our behaviors. Most often it is not because we don’t want see it, but because our ego does not want us to see it. It is fighting against our growth. Our ego is very cunning and very sly. It can fill our heads with bounties of shame and belittlement, in a sense forcing us to ignore the truth before us. Since, we already have a poor self-worth (shame), to admit yet another “fault” can feel like too much to bear so we subconsciously keep it hidden in hopes to hold onto some semblance of worth – even if it is false worth.
When we begin to recognize our doormat behaviors, the doors begin to swing wide open for healing and advancement and over time, this would mean death to the ego (our lower self). I have to admit I have heard some pretty darn creative excuses in my time! Each and every time, I come to know even more deeply how much power we give over to our to our egos and how little we have honored our authentic selves.
The road to empowerment is all about radical honesty with self. It’s about standing up and saying:
Yes, I handed my power over to him/her right there! This is precisely the place I go wrong every time.
Oftentimes, I believe we are deeply afraid to admit our doormat areas because that will mean we have to do something different right now, this minute, and we simply are not yet healed or prepared enough to do so.
Rest assured, admittance is only the first step to healing. No one can make you do anything that you are not truly ready for. Know and understand that recognition of your disempowered ways is merely the gateway to building up your strength, faith and courage to be able to act from a higher place whenever you are ready to do so.
Recovering from doormat hood is just that… a recovery. It takes time, commitment and tenacity to start to living empowerment in all areas of your life. To whole-heartedly admit your doormat tendencies, is to say YES to a better way of living… A life of brimming with respect, honor and fulfilled dreams.