What To Do When Your Fear Freezes You
March 28th, 2015
We’ve all had those moments when we know we need to speak up or act differently, but choose otherwise. Oftentimes, we are later sitting alone with our regret silently pining a missed opportunity to speak our truth or act from our authentic center.
First off, congratulate yourself for recognizing you could have done better!
The first step to ANY change is recognizing our pattern and knowing we’d like to change it in the future. You’ve already taken an important courageous step!
The next step is to dig a little deeper into why you chose to stay silent. Was it a fear of offending another? A fear of losing the love/attention of another? Fear of being belittled or disregarded? Inquiry leads us to better perceptions. Once we know what fearful thought we are holding onto, we are better positioned to dispelling that thought.
Anytime we don’t speak our truth, a piece of our self-worth dies. And anytime we do stand in our truth, a piece of our self-worth grows! By withholding what our soul is calling us to do can only hurt us in later on. We might experience missed opportunity after missed opportunity or allow our lives to remain small and shriveled rather than luscious and full.
Our journey here is to know Who we are, our worth and to live within the beauty and bounty of our souls.
Fear is only an illusion.
It is something that our mind (ego) makes up to keep us small. We cannot thrive when we are believing our lower thoughts and functioning from a dense vibration.
When we speak our inner knowing, our truths and our experiences, we are honoring the very essence of Who we are. When we honor our essence, we ignite our passion. We get stronger. Our confidence grows. We don’t fall for others’ manipulative tricks as often or even at all. Our entire being begins to thrive and each truth brings us closer to living a more fulfilled life!
Six Steps To Transcending Your Fear
- Notice when you are holding back. Mere ownership is more powerful than you think! Allow your process to begin.
- Ponder how you could have handled the situation better. Resist the urge to add emotion to it. Simply be with the situation and allow your higher self to speak up. How could I have handled this better? What would I be willing to do differently next time?
- Do not beat yourself up. You are a work in progress. We sabotage our growth when we continually beat ourselves up. Be gentle with yourself on your journey.
- Consider that all truth will lead to better results. Initially, yes, you might rock a few worlds when you start to have an opinion. So what. Self-worth is about honoring your authentic self. How you feel and what you have to contribute matters! In the end, the truth sets everyone free.
- Start small. Make a deal with yourself that the very next time you notice you are holding back, say something. It does not have to be some major grandstanding announcement. Something small, but truthful will do just fine.
- Release expectations. Remember, how others’ react is their reality, not yours. If you expect a certain outcome or reaction, you will be disappointed every time and most likely never want to speak up again. The only approval you need is your own.
Once you begin to “feel the fear and do it anyway”, you will begin noticing a sense of peace and freedom! Allow your new feelings to take root. Do not disregard your growth! You’ve just taken a mighty courageous step. Bring it to the Light and be proud of yourself! Onward and upward!